Hi! I’m Dr. Melissa Kalt, M.D., and I Created Am I the Problem? (AITP) for YOU!
As a narcissistic abuse survivor turned rapid narcissistic abuse recovery expert, I’m an executive consultant who helps Soul-driven leaders transcend their past experience of narcissistic abuse so they create greater impact and fulfillment while they change the world.
Over the years, I’ve helped millions of narcissistic or emotional abuse survivors, like you, through both my paid programs and my free content. I LOVE hearing your stories. AND I find they are ripe with learning opportunities.
If you’re anything like I was, you experienced so much gaslighting, projection, blame-shifting, and manipulation that you can’t help but worry you are the problem.
Sure, those toxic people in your life are WAY off base; however, the real a-ha’s and shifts come with seeing where you ARE part of the problem, treating yourself as poorly as others do (if not worse) by people-pleasing, avoiding boundary setting, accepting blame for others’ actions, and seeking approval.
I want better for you — more than you even believe you deserve — because I see the truth. You are AMAZING and deserve everything you desire.
That’s why I created this publication — to teach through stories — your stories, by unveiling the toxicity in others and the toxicity you show yourself. That’s how we learn and grow together.
Jump in the chat. Send me your stories. Connect in the Notes. And most important, subscribe to AITP for entertaining transformation.
Personal growth and healing aren’t meant to be boring!
~Dr Melissa
Why AITP is For You…
📌 Subscribe for entertaining and engaging transformation, especially if you’re dealing with toxic relationships.
🏋️ Leverage the power of learning through others’ stories. It’s so much easier to see someone else’s situation clearly.
🔥 Apply what you learn to your most challenging situations.
🚀 Instead of focusing on the other person, I’ll help you turn your focus inward. Addressing ways you are toxic to yourself is rocket fuel on your transformation journey.
👉 Serious about healing? My Founding Membership gives you VIP Access to quarterly Peak Performance Mastery Labs — including a group trauma extraction session — to radically accelerate your results. That alone pays for the cost of your membership!
How I Went from Award-Winning Physician to Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert, Entrepreneur, and Author…
In 2013, my world blew up. I was forced to face that several of those closest to me were toxic and I had changes to make.
It took years for me to admit or acknowledge that I experienced abuse. And it took several more years, before I acknowledged it was narcissistic abuse — in my family of origin, marriage of 20 years, and workplace.
I dove in with a goal of learning everything I could about trauma. I so wanted a do-over, to unring the bell — not just for myself, but for my five amazing children who deserved better.
I started with western medicine — I was a doctor — but quickly learned it didn’t have much to offer for emotional trauma. Eastern and energetic medicine were where it was at. I learned to not just process or release trauma, but to EXTRACT it — not just from myself, but from others.
I also focused on personal development, growth, and evolution. These are the things I LOVE (and can talk about all day). Over time, I intuitively downloaded narcissistic abuse recovery processes that not only worked for me, but for so many others.
I knew I couldn’t keep this all to myself, so in 2018, I chose to leave my successful medical practice to follow my WHY — guiding others through rapid narcissistic abuse recovery.
Now, just a few years later, from free content to paid programs, I’ve helped millions navigate life after narcissistic or toxic relationships.
Why I Created Am I the Problem?
Because most of the content and “wisdom” out there is just plain wrong.
I read a lot of AITA posts. They can be outrageous, funny, shocking, and entertaining all at the same time. They definitely highlight lots of toxic relationships in the world!
The comments can be disturbing — often made by people-pleasers shaming the poster for setting a healthy boundary or someone who only sees the world through the lens of extreme scarcity.
Worse yet, most narcissistic abuse content online is inaccurate or incomplete. (I publish clear, accurate, emotionally clean topic-based content in my publication, Stepping Into the Light.)
I created Am I the Problem? to address YOUR challenging situations with candor and love, highlighting what you can do to ensure you’re not part of the problem.
📌 If you’re tired of agonizing about whether you’re the problem, this is where you gain clarity.
What I Show Inside Am I the Problem?
I break down the most challenging relationship stories.
✅ Identifying the toxic behaviors of the antagonist in the story
✅ Identifying the toxic behaviors of any 3rd parties (friends, family, co-workers)
✅ Identifying the toxic behaviors the poster has towards themselves
🔥 Because shifting the toxic behaviors directed at yourself changes everything.
1️⃣ The Free Plan (Read and Apply)
Twice a month, I break down an AITP story, identifying, naming, and describing the toxic behaviors present with special attention to any nuance.
You can stay on the free plan forever, lurking in the background.
-OR-
You can commit to activating and embodying change in your own life - by upgrading to a paid subscription for the A-Ha Accelerator (outlined below)
And if you want to really move the needle, get trauma extraction inside our quarterly trainings as a Founding Member.
2️⃣ The A-Ha Accelerator: (To Apply Immediately)
Inside my paid membership, you’ll receive…
✅ Monthly Challenges to transform your relationships — fast
✅ Deep Dive Subscriber-only posts — quickly integrate and embody what you learn
✅ The opportunity to submit your own AITP story — that’s like a $1,000 consult!
✅ Can’t Miss Masterclass: 3 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Trauma — so you focus your time and energy on what works!
✅ Exclusive Benefits: 50% off our Premium Publication, Stepping Into the Light, with curated content for your rapid healing
This is for people who are serious about getting back into the driver’s seat.
3️⃣ The Founding Membership (Let Me Extract Your Trauma)
This is for the go-getter who wants results yesterday.
What’s included…
✅ VIP Access to quarterly trainings which include TRAUMA EXTRACTION
✅ Priority consideration for AITP story submissions
✅ Behind the scenes look at the writing of my new book
✅ Everything included in the paid membership!
Trauma extraction accelerates your results.
Why Follow Me?
Because I’ve healed from narcissistic and emotional abuse AND because I’ve healed my people-pleasing, approval seeking, and boundary setting struggles.
👉 I’ve eliminated my migraines, neuropathic pain, hip injury, insomnia, rumination, peeing a million times per night and so many other symptoms of trauma.
👉 I’ve reignited my passion and fire
👉 I’ve claimed my place and own my worth
👉 I’ve married an amazing man, who I love and trust
👉 I’ve impacted MILLIONS doing work that I LOVE
And I know you can, too.
If you’re ready to get clear about your most challenging relationship scenarios while gaining the firm knowledge (and peace that comes with it) that you’re not the problem, this is the place for you.
🫶 Follow for entertaining insights.
🔥 Join AITP to reclaim your peace.
🚀 DM me to accelerate your narcissistic or emotional abuse recovery journey.
You deserve it. 💜
Dr. Melissa
